Note: This article may trigger unhealed trauma wounds (such as PTSD, TBI). This article is designed for individuals who are experiencing what feels like “normal grief.” Any grief that feels unhealthy needs to be handled by a psychotherapist.
As a Decluttering Coach, I recently had a client who believed that grief was a bad thing. Let’s call her “Maura.” She had lost her son, and every time she even CONSIDERED donating his belongings, she believed her painful feelings were to be avoided.
As a child, I had the privilege of being taught to LET IT ALL OUT when I cried. Even the men in my family freely express tears. So when my client, “Maura” told me that grief is a bad thing, I asked if she was willing to examine the thought, “I shouldn’t grieve.” “Maura” quickly consented, and after a few of my life coaching questions, she opened up to the idea that grief might not be so bad after all.
Years ago, I began collecting every kind of grief outlet under the sun.
My favorite “processing tool” is WRITING. I write myself emails whenever I feel stressed or confused, and then discard them when I’m feeling relieved.
When I was mourning the death of a close friend, I spent an entire year writing down EVERY single thought that triggered tears.
(I also got a lot of therapy and life coaching on seeing this person’s death without a tragic story.)
Best of all, I no longer feel sad about this person, and I’ve been able to fully move on.
Incidentally, I’ve devoted three lessons on grief in my decluttering eCourse, Bliss Bites: Creating Space for Your Dream Life. If you like what you’ve read above, try it free .
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Tina Meilleur is a licensed CPA and life coach helping people design their success.
Rachel Boucher teaches women how to expand their intuition and better trust themselves so that they have a more pleasurable life.